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So, you are just a mum!!

Women are to be judged, thats the mantra of our society. Whether its about their cloths, career, lifestyle, or any aspect of life. One such aspect is the choice of working or not working. First of all, I don’t like this term of “non-working”. Its not like, if a woman is not working outside of home, she is sitting or sleeping whole day at home. Why is it, that house work whether it is cleaning, cooking, laundry, and other household chores are not considered as work. May be because, that work doesn’t provide earning in terms of money. But isn’t there an importance of that clean home, ironed cloths, home cooked food, and such other small luxuries of life you get because of her, which we don’t even count. But for everyone she is just a housewife, she doesn’t work.

There is so much written about mothers and motherhood. But when it comes to real life, do we give enough credit to mothers, I don’t think so. If a woman is a working mother, she is judged for not giving enough time for her child and home. At office she is judged for being more focused on her child and home then work. Only she knows, how she is juggling both, but nobody sees her struggle.

If a woman is a non-working mother, or a mother who is on a break from her career to be with her child, or a stay at home mom, who chose to raise her kids, leaving her job. She is judged for wasting her degrees, her experience. When did raising a child became less important? Let me tell you, it require guts to leave your job, your career, to say goodbye to your salary, to lose that professional identity. Whether its for a break or forerver. To be called just a mum.

Yes, just a mum who can’t eat when she is hungry, because her baby wants to be carried, or has wet himself, or hungry, or sleepy. And she being a mother, can’t bear her baby in distress. Just a mum who have to adjust her pee or poop time according to her baby (yes, that a reality, ask any mother you know). Just a mum who have to bath in record time, before her baby wakes up again. Just a mum, who was finally about to sleep after a tiresome day, and her baby decides to wake up at that time. But she never complains, because the joy of being a mother, seeing her baby smile surpasses everything.  But for some people , she is just a mum.

To all the women, whether you are a housewife, a professional, a working at home mother, stay at home mother. You are special, be proud of youself and your choices. Be happy, and don’t let anyone put a dent on your happiness. Because:

A happy woman makes a happy home !!

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I am an avid reader, and an aspiring writer.

18 thoughts on “So, you are just a mum!!

  1. A sad truth of our male dominated society but I think we are indeed making some progress as a society too…….and Kudos to our multitasking mother’s and talented ladies……☺☺

    A very nice post Di……👌👌👌

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  2. Great post! I agree, women are judged no matter what. The saddest thing is that we are usually judges by other women. We should be supporting each other? You want to be a working mom, great, we understand how hard it is. You want to be home with your child? You’re not just a mom, you’re a mom. That’s a full time job. It’s has hard as any other job, sometimes harder. You’re never JUST A MOM, you’re so much more. You’re someone who studied and worked and now decided that her child comes first, and that’s fine! You have the right to be a full-time mom. I fully support that and all the choices a mother can make. That’s up to us.


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  3. Definately relate to a lot of this, I know very well that mothers who stay at home to care for their children are often looked down upon, people can be very patronising about it but the reality is that they have no idea of the mental and physical resilience it takes to be a full time parent, my husband always tells me that going to work is like a break for him!

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